Topic
Pleasure
What feels good, what we're allowed to want, and why the conversation so often skips straight to performance.
Conversations
Episode 25 · 1 October 2026
Sex and what we want
Why is it so much harder to ask for what we want in bed than anywhere else in our lives?
Episode 21 · 3 September 2026
Sex and pleasure
Why do we expect ourselves, and our partners, to just know how sex is supposed to work?
Writing
15 October 2026
The permission slip we keep waiting for
We can ask for a pay rise and still struggle to say what we want in bed. Ally Iseman on pleasure, awkward conversations and the habit of putting ourselves last.
4 September 2026
We need to talk about sex
I have been with my husband for more than 20 years. Yet, until very recently, there were things about sex I had never told him.