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Why Aren't We Talking About This?
Conversations about the messy, uncomfortable and very human bits of life.

Topic

Communication

What we say, what we don't, and the gap between the words we use and the thing we actually mean.

Conversations

  • Episode 25 · 1 October 2026

    Sex and what we want

    Why is it so much harder to ask for what we want in bed than anywhere else in our lives?

  • Episode 21 · 3 September 2026

    Sex and pleasure

    Why do we expect ourselves, and our partners, to just know how sex is supposed to work?

Writing

  • 15 October 2026

    The permission slip we keep waiting for

    We can ask for a pay rise and still struggle to say what we want in bed. Ally Iseman on pleasure, awkward conversations and the habit of putting ourselves last.

  • 4 September 2026

    We need to talk about sex

    I have been with my husband for more than 20 years. Yet, until very recently, there were things about sex I had never told him.